When we notice the monologue in our head, reduce the intensity of the negative power and respect ourselves as a loyal friend with compassion, then we can begin to harness the true power of positive self-talk!
- Check-in and notice the ‘I am’ statements: we use I am statements often in our self-talk. If what you say after ‘I am…’ is positive and enhances your emotional state then keep using it. If what you are saying after the ‘I am…’ statement diminishes your emotional state then it is time to stop it! Saturate your ‘I am’ statements with optimism, energy and power.
- Contain the negativity: when we change the intensity of our self-talk, we take the impact or sting out of the negative power. For example, if we change ‘I can’t do this’ to ‘this is challenging right now’, or ‘this always happens to me’ to ‘what can I learn from this experience’? Or ‘I hate doing presentations’ to ‘what will it take to present the best version of me’. Reducing the power of the negative self-talk going on in our heads, will lessen, neutralise or even dissipate the impact mentally, physically and emotionally.
- Treat yourself like a friend: you wouldn’t say many of the phrases to a friend that you say to yourself, would you? Then why do it to yourself? The next time you begin engaging in negative self-talk, ask yourself – how you would feel if you heard someone saying that to a close friend or family member? It is unsupportive, demeaning and judgemental. We need to be more gracious and compassionate to ourselves. When we respect ourselves, we are less tolerant of negative self-talk and are much more vibrant when engaging in positive self-talk.
I really enjoyed the course both the online component and the 3-day face-to-face workshop.
“The workshop was just a lot more interactive and there were some good practical exercises that I enjoyed. For example I took away lots of tips on exercises including stillness and active mindfulness – that will help me to implement breaks in my very busy life. I think that’s really important according to what I have been taught to prepare myself for that peak performance state. I thought it only applied to sports but in fact for myself to really think clearly and present the version of myself to the team. I really need to be in that state.”
Thanks for training me to become a confident speaker.
“It has been one of the most valuable knowledge and skills gained through my PhD candidature. I enjoy applying the concepts learned, such as mindfulness practices into academic presentations or all aspects of my life.”
The importance of being in action, not letting resistance and hesitations get in the way.
“It’s given me a lot of tools and information that I can research more and new ways to think and how I can put things into action. Knowing that I have the ability, the resources, and the inner wisdom to do these things with courage, is great. The importance of being in action, not letting resistance and hesitations get in the way, trusting my own gut and my wisdom, the importance of affirmation has been really reinforced for me. Authentic Leadership is not about being a leader as the official title but leading your own life.”